Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. Healing is the act of restoring to health.
The greatest misfortune, to use the word in the definition, to me is the loss of a child. To me, that would be the deepest loss ever to be experienced. I learned a few weeks ago that October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month as designated by President Reagan in 1988. Then I wanted to know more so I did some reading to learn that about 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I had no idea. Then I began thinking at how much loss the woman has to feel and yet, may be unable to express it because no one really gets it. We feel the loss of a baby who is stillborn, or a baby whose life ends after birth and we grieve with her. But this? How do you grieve over a loss that doesn’t seem real?
I also learned that it is helpful for women to be able to talk about this loss and that groups exist to help women cope. There are chapters of Compassionate Friends in all 50 states in the U.S and three in my home state of Connecticut.
I wanted to find a way to help. So, I created the Bracelet for Compassionate Healing, filled with beautiful stones all believed to help heal, and for every bracelet sold, I will donate $3 to a grief and loss group that helps women.
The Bracelet for Compassionate Healing is all in pink, pale blue and purple stones:
- Rose Quartz thought to help health the heart due to the loss of a loved one
- Lepidolite to help ward off grief’s depression
- Pale amethyst which is thought to help soothe the mind and bring about emotional comfort
- Sugilite thought to bring light and love into the darkest of situations
- Blue chalcedony which is believed to help turn down the chatter inside your head, and help you to breathe calmly which allows for healing
- Angelite which reminds us that we are not alone, that we can ask angels for help, and there is always someone to reach out to for help.
- Clear Quartz which is known as a master healer and amplifies the energies of the other stones.
The bracelet has two charm options – angel wing or a round charm that rads “Mom of an angel”.
This bracelet would be a beautiful, thoughtful gift to let someone know you are thinking of them and wish them healing. I sent one to my cousin whose daughter birthed a stillborn daughter five years ago. As the anniversary neared, I was compelled to send a bracelet to her. Her comments: “The bracelet is lovely and sentiment deeply meaningful; nearly made me cry. Thank you so much for the acknowledgement of losing our granddaughter”.
I learned a lesson through this. Not to be afraid to raise the topic and to let the person know that they are in your thoughts. No judgment, simply compassion.